Femininity and womanhood is a powerful thing. It seems that many who pay attention to political matters are all too easily swayed to disparage one gender over the other. The reality is that we need each other. This toxic discussion between people trying to prove a point can only make us reflect on what it actually means to be feminine, or female.
When we think about it, it’s easy to put the attributes of being female into boxes. As women, we may associate our femaleness with our ability to create life or our nurturing personalities. Some people may roll their eyes at the definition; however, the eternal caring mother is an archetype that has lasted throughout all of humanity’s history, and it’s not isolated to our species.
But we women are more than mothers, and we are no less than women if we fit into the following “boxes.”
You Struggle To Have Children
Many women can feel that struggling to conceive shows they are somehow less of a woman than those who don’t struggle. This is not true. Anyone can have trouble with this for a number of natural reasons, or sometimes they may not be able to conceive for medical reasons. Thankfully, with advanced fertility clinics and other viable alternatives, the family you long for can be yours. Go through the correct processes and do your research. No matter what you opt for, remember that you are no less than you would be otherwise. It’s a shame this has to be vocalized.
You Aren’t Traditional
Thankfully, we’re far beyond the times where women are expected to conduct all the housework, learn to sew and knit or simply stay quiet no matter what in the presence of men. There’s absolutely no shame in being traditional and enjoying being a housewife, or mother, or to take care of household chores. But there’s no shame whatsoever in wanting to be the main breadwinner and having your spouse fulfill those roles. Whatever works for you works for you, no matter what others might tell you.
You Are Less Than Feminine
Many women feel that if they do not show off the ‘dainty’ aspects of femininity, even if it’s far from their reality to actually behave in this way, they are somehow less attractive to the opposite sex or somehow failing themselves. This is ludicrous. Simply act how you are, and how you wish to express yourself. No matter where on the spectrum that falls, as long as you are being a decent person, you are more than enough. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. The beauty of womanhood, as in manhood, is that it’s a lived expression, not a textbook example. You define it by your ability to embody it however it works for you. That’s it.
With this advice, we hope you can feel more comfortable in yourself as you deserve to.