We can all get the feeling that we are overdoing it on occasion, but, while we may be feeling the stress somewhat, do we ever really do anything about it? Sometimes it’s about giving ourselves the opportunity to enjoy some downtime, but we also need to examine when we have too much on our plate. If you don’t know the signs you are overdoing it, it’s worth looking for a few of these.
There Is No Such Thing As A Routine
Perhaps running late is a common occurrence. Maybe you used to have a diligent approach to structuring your day, but now everything seems to fall by the wayside. As such, you may find the things that you usually do to keep your health in peak condition are now disappearing. When it comes to something so important, like your physical health, maybe you feel that you are young enough to bypass any major problems. Perhaps there are little issues you are inclined to ignore right now because you’re so busy. But the big issue is that when we ignore the small issues, they will turn into bigger ones.
If, for example, you ignore that pain in your stomach for too long, it could turn into a hernia. The time taken to get this hernia repair means you are out of action for a few weeks. This means that you will stress even more because you’ve lost so much time. Rather than feeling like you’re running late all the time, start to put a routine in place. And this is not just for the things that need doing in the household or life, but for yourself as well. This means doing things like exercising; taking a little bit of time to exercise is excellent for you. But that temptation to sit down becomes more inviting when we’re so busy. Before we know it, we’ve not done anything for the benefit of our health for months on end.
You Don’t Have Any Hobbies Anymore
If you find there is no time for your passions, this is a sure-fire sign. Hobbies are a fantastic thing. If you think that you genuinely don’t have time for them, perhaps you need to address this. Besides, hobbies aren’t a luxury; they can do a lot for you as far as your mindset is concerned.
Yes, there are things like chores that need doing, but if you don’t have the opportunity to relax with your favorite TV show, or do something that you can get absorbed in for a couple of hours like a long walk or running, it’s time to rethink your weekly pattern drastically. Partly, this might be due to the fact that people prioritize the tasks that seem relevant on the surface, for example, paying bills. If we feel we need to pay them as soon as they come in the mail, we can get some breathing space. But does this take priority over you having a couple of hours to yourself?
Feeling The Need To Control Everything
Part of why we get stressed is because we don’t feel we have the ability to control something. If you are doing too much, and then a wrench is thrown into the works, you can feel this overriding sense of panic. You might even think that everything is ruined because of this little thing. Instead, taking the time to re-prioritize your tasks will benefit you greatly.
If you believe that a problem is always going to derail your plans, it’s about learning how to tackle that problem with a few beneficial problem-solving skills. It is just a problem. And when you feel your blood bubble because of something unexpected, it may be worth learning how to control your reaction to stressful situations. There will always be things that we can’t prepare for. The big difference in coping with it is all down to our mindset.
You Try To Please Everyone
It’s very dangerous being a people pleaser. Doing what you can to make sure everybody is happy highlights that you place a priority on everyone else apart from yourself. As a parent or a partner, you may feel that everybody else deserves priority, but after a while, ensuring that everyone is happy and you are the lowest in the pecking order means that this becomes a habit for life.
Learning to say “no” isn’t a negative thing, especially for yourself. Trying to be a people pleaser means that you are spinning too many plates. After a while, it will prove tiresome and stressful. And now, as there is such a focus on stress and what it does to us out there in the media, we have to learn how to say “no,” but first, this means we have to acknowledge we are doing too much.
External Concerns
Take it as a sign that you are doing too much if a random stranger is concerned about you! Sometimes, if we’re in a stress bubble, this is all we know. And when we live in this way, we don’t tend to notice it from another perspective. If someone asks you if you’re okay, or they suggest that you slow down, you might want to take their advice on board. As we begin to make changes in our life, having a different perspective is a beneficial component. We have to remember that, when someone is concerned about us, we take it on board. It’s so easy for us to say “I’m fine” and soldier on, but when someone is concerned for you, at the very least, you can listen to what they have to say.
When we feel that there’s not enough time to do anything, and this becomes the story of our lives, we can either continue until a significant event stops us in our tracks, or we can do something about it right now. You might feel that you need to push on because this is what keeps everything going. But what happens then is that you hit a wall and everything will collapse. Instead, ensuring you have tools in place will mean that you will never feel that you are doing too much. Look for the signs.
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